Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Happy Birthday, Don!

Don's 20th was yesterday, and we went out for dinner with his family to Goha Restaurant, which is an Ethiopian place that none of us had tried. I had Ethiopian once before when I traveled to San Diego with my debate team, and really enjoyed it. I have been so excited to come home in the summers and see how much Nashville's culinary scene has exploded. It is really a great city with tons of great food!

Meal from Goha, photo borrowed from Urbanspoon user Brian C.

Ethiopian food is really cool because it typically all comes served on this yummy, spongey, flat bread called injera. You tear the bread and use it to pinch up your food with your fingers- no utensils! Don and I both ordered the vegetable combos since we're vegetarians and enjoyed it so much that I didn't take a picture. It included lentils prepared in different ways, a cabbage and carrot dish, a green bean and carrot dish which was my favorite, and collard greens. It was all super delicious and even though we ate until we were way beyond full, there was still tons leftover.

Don and I in the restaurant.

Then we went back to Don's parents' house for cake and present! Unfortunately, the gift I had been planning to give him for weeks still had not arrived in the mail, so I gave him a consolation gift so he'd have something to open. His iPhone 5 case has been broken for a long time now, so I got him a new black case with shiny silver detail. I think it's super distinguished!

His gift came in the mail today, so I wanted to give it to him ASAP! Tonight I met him after he got off work, and took him out for Birthday Round 2 at Macaroni Grill. Two big dinners in one week is a lot, but I wanted it to feel special and I love drawing on their tables! I made him turn around while I put both his presents in the trunk of his car before we left, but I only brought one gift into the restaurant. I got him Jack White's Lazaretto Ultra LP- a record. If you know anything about music, this record is a huge deal and kind of hard to get your hands on. It has two finishes, plays on three different speeds, has two secret tracks, has one side that plays from the inside out, has a song that sounds different depending on where you drop the needle, and has a FREAKING HOLOGRAPH of an angel when you play side 1. Basically, it is the shit and Don loved it.

Album art from Lazaretto's cover. Stolen from Wikipedia.

Unfortunately, Don does not have a record player. I pretended not to know this all through dinner and acted crushed that I had "ruined" his gift by purchasing a record he couldn't listen to. Little did he know, there was a second present waiting in his trunk- a new Jensen record player! Don was super surprised and excited. I haven't seen him as excited over any of my other gifts before, tehe. I got him a simple player with built-in speakers that was light enough for him to move back and forth from college.

Showing off his presents.

We went home and listened to the whole album. It was just as amazing as I expected, and we will definitely be collecting records from here on out!

Any suggestions for albums we should start our collection with? I know that next on my list is both of the Civil Wars albums!

Friday, July 11, 2014

Shit People Say During Our Engagement

My running list of shit people say during our two-year engagement. Prepare for filthy words and much ranting. 

Ah. The smiling couple. See how happy they look? NOT FOR LONG, SUCKERS!


1. "But you're waiting SO long to get married. Two years is a LONG time." 
How astute of you, dipshit, that's the point. We specifically planned our wedding for after Don graduates with his bachelor's and I graduate with my master's. We specifically planned our wedding to fall in between the transition where we'll be moving from our college towns to a new state for Don to start law school. We are doing the responsible thing here, and we're proud of that. When we start our life together, we'll be two very educated people and we'll marry knowing that we did the right thing and got our educations first.

2. "Then why'd you get engaged SO early?" 
Because we're in love, asshole. Is that clear enough for you?

3. "Is that a diamond?" 
No. It's the product of yet another one of our fiscally and ethically responsible choices- and on top of that, my stone is rarer than yours, more colorless than yours, and more flawless than yours, so screw off.

4. "How was he able to buy that ring?"
With money.


5. "I guess your parents will be paying for the wedding." 
Actually, I am budgeting for and paying for the majority of our wedding with savings from the two jobs I am working in addition to my full college course load. My parents have offered to help with certain things on the budget, and we are very grateful to them for that gift.

6. "I guess Don will be needing to find a career/job soon." 
You guess wrong, Don is just fine where he is. In fact, I am prepared to be the sole earner for three or four years while Don does graduate school, so you can go ahead and stuff your patriarchal notions about society right back up your ass where they belong.

7. "You're too young to get engaged/married."
Thanks, we value your advice so much (not really. Screw off.)

8. "Two years is plenty of time to change your mind."
Yeah, ok. After four years of dating, going long-distance for one of those years, moving to a different state, experiencing a grandparent being mentally decimated by Alzheimer's, euthanizing a terminally ill pet, and dealing with the stress of college plus managing at least two high school or collegiate debate teams at any given time, I'm pretty sure that's not going to happen.

9. "The divorce statistics don't look good for you." 
Seriously? We're debaters. We research everything. I'm pretty sure we're a lot more well-versed in divorce statistics than you. We're not stupid, we understand the statistics. Unfortunately for your nosy self, you are not privy to our private conversations as a couple that pertain to how we plan to make our marriage last. But regardless, this is a really horrible thing for you to say to someone. Stop being an asshole.


10. "You're throwing your life away so early/You have so much ahead of you!"
My personal favorite. I don't personally view pledging myself to the love of my life as a death sentence. Every cool thing I have yet to experience (travelling to another country, roadtrip across the Southwest, skydiving, learning to surf, coaching a team to Nationals) will be so much better with Don by my side. I really don't understand this mentality that all the fun things go away after you're married. Yes, things change, but in the end, I have my lover, best friend and favorite partner-in-crime to travel through this life with. What could be better? <3

Monday, April 28, 2014

Creating a Wedding Binder

Don and I are recently engaged, yay! I'll try to get around to writing a recap of the proposal sometime soon, but my project from the last two days has been to create a freaking fabulous wedding binder. We are planning a relatively long engagement. Think more than two years long. So to keep myself sane for the next two-and-a-half years, I am going to be working a lot with this baby.

I know that for the less adventurous, bookstores carry tons of wedding planners. However, I think it's good to customize it, especially if your engagement or wedding is nontraditional in any way. Not only are we having a long engagement, but we are also strongly considering a Saturday morning wedding with a brunch reception. Breakfast planning is not something that typical wedding planners account for, so it made even more sense to create my own.

Big shout out to Katherine, over at Just Lovely, who inspired the creation of this notebook. You can read her article here:
http://justlovelykatherine.blogspot.com/2012/06/www-how-to-put-together-wedding.html

I started by choosing a durable, three-ring binder from Walmart. Right now, I am thinking of a fall wedding with purple, orange, and bright green included in the floral arrangements. I've wanted my bridesmaids to have purple dresses since I was a kid, so I went with a purple binder with a clear insert on the front. It was about three bucks. I printed all of my materials at home, so I also had to buy a new black ink cartridge.


For the cover, I found a free monogram website and designed our married monogram in our (tentative) fall wedding colors. You can do this at PrintableMonogram.com. Here is a link to the template I used: http://printablemonogram.com/monogram/quatrefoil-monogram-orange-lime/


I have the inside divided into ten sections with pocket tab dividers.
At the very front,  I printed out our joint wedding Pinterest board, and used the margins to make notes about what I like. This helps me picture my overall vision for the wedding a little bit better, and I can point out specific pictures and notes to vendors.



For the pages in my sections, I primarily used printables from two sources, Russell and Hazel, and Wedplan.com. Every page is linked to its original web source with the page number for large PDFs. 

1. Important
--Two Year Wedding Planning Timeline (you should include a timeline that's pertinent to your length of engagement)
--Wedding Day Timeline Worksheet Russell and Hazel pg. 5
--Wedding Day Details Wedding Day Details pg. 17 
--Emergency Kits Russell and Hazel pg. 21
2. Budgeting
3. Guests
I plan to draft my guest lists in this section, and eventually, to create a spreadsheet keeping track of invitations and replies.
4. Attire
--The Bride's Trousseau Wedplan pg. 6
--Beauty Worksheet-Hair Russell and Hazel pg. 6
--Beauty Worksheet-Makeup pg. 7
--The Attendants  Wedplan pg. 7 
--The Groomsmen/Ushers pg. 8
5. Ceremony
--The Wedding Day Wedplan pg. 24
--Ceremony Worksheet Russell and Hazel pg. 17
--Your Personal Wedding Vows Wedplan pg. 25
6. Reception
--Menu Worksheet Russell and Hazel pg. 30
--Wedding Cake Worksheet Russell and Hazel pg. 53
--Sample Menus from Caterers in My Area
7. Rehearsal
--Menu Worksheet Russell and Hazel pg. 30
8. Vendors
--Pre-Wedding Details Wedplan pg. 9 
--The Decor Wedplan pg. 22-23
--Music Wedplan pg. 18
--Music Worksheet Russell and Hazel pg. 32
9. Registry
--Gift Registry Wedplan pg. 11-13
--Showers Wedplan pg. 14-15
10. Miscellaneous

I will be adding to my binder as the wedding planning moves forward, but I think that this is a good place to start. Let me know how making your binder turns out!



Tuesday, March 4, 2014

5 Things People Say to Future Educators

"I have come to believe that a great teacher is a great artist and that there are as few as there are any other great artists. Teaching might even be the greatest of the arts since the medium is the human mind and spirit."
--John Steinbeck

Let me tell you something about being a teaching candidate: it's frustrating. Not only do I have to deal with mindless bureaucratic crap on a daily basis, as well as sometimes mediocre assignments and even mediocre classmates, but I also have to constantly defend my career choice to everyone from my family members to the random idiot who happens to sit next to me in one of my non-education classes. Here's a few of my favorites so far.

1. "Oh, so you're getting your Mrs. degree." 
Yes. Because clearly, I am deeply concerned with spending four years in college to find a man so I can settle down, push out babies, and Lysol countertops for the rest of my life. 

Honestly, I am probably a lot more intelligent than whichever champion came up with this gem and I know for a fact that I can run circles around you in a debate or any intelligent conversation. So let's cut the sexist bullshit, shall we, and talk about how messed up this statement is? First, there are a lot of male teachers. Some of my best teachers have been men (I'm looking at you Chesser, Keithley, and Mr. Echols). I understand that there's a whole host of stereotypes and problems that male education students face, but let's not compound that by assuming that all teaching candidates are women. Second, I really don't appreciate your failure to take teachers seriously. Although I would expect a statement like this to come from someone completely uneducated and ignorant, chances are that you have at least a high school degree, so it looks like your teachers got you somewhere in life. Third, the whole idea of a "Mrs. degree" is just so wrong. I can't even. If a guy can come to college and major in anything he wants without people thinking he's just in it to find a wife, I don't know what should be different for me. Please. 

2. "Education is such an easy major." 
I get it. I don't have to solve complicated problems, spend hours in a chemistry lab, memorize complicated formulas, or any of that. From your end, you probably think I spend a lot of time coloring and cutting out paper. What you don't understand is that there's so much more to it than that. For high school teaching candidates, we are not only taking an entire major's worth (33 hours at Mercer) of education classes, but also majoring in the subject we hope to teach, be it English, math, biology, chemistry, or history. I probably have double the graduation requirements you have. And on top of all that, we also have to juggle fieldwork and volunteer experiences. The average college student cannot handle these kinds of requirements. 
Additionally, a lot goes into education classes. You think anybody can teach (I'll get to that) but I have to be an expert not only in English Literature, my field of study, but also adolescent physical and emotional development, social issues that affect education, legislation that affects education, rules and regulations of individual state's education departments, teaching strategies and techniques, teaching theory and specialized topics, like teaching children with disabilities. My study is not limited to just one subject, and since the field of education is constantly changing, I am constantly having to update the information in my mental filing cabinet. 


3. "Why are you at Mercer if you just want to be a teacher?"

This is one of my favorites. I have no idea how many of my family and friends privately believe that I should have gone to community college or state school, but I know you're out there. Even my parents have sometimes expressed concerns that I am putting myself into a lot of debt "just" to be a teacher. After all, every education program is the same, right? Wrong. What you have to understand is that I think about my students every day, and not just the ones I'm working with presently. I think about my future students every day. I pray for my future students every day. This might seem excessive to someone who's not a teacher, but for me, every aspect of my life and of my college experience is preparation for being the best teacher I can be. It's only fair to my students, current and future, that I put in the work to becoming the best possible teacher for them, and I want to do that in one of the best programs available for teachers. Additionally, I truly believe in the Tift College of Education and the values it promotes among teaching candidates. Yes, I am sacrificing a lot. Yes, I think it's worth it. Another note on this is that the just becoming a teacher statement irks me. See #2. Teachers put in a lot of work. And teachers are also really important. 

4. "Anybody can teach."

Wrong, wrong, wrong. I have had way too many experiences with someone just selecting a teaching career because they think it's easy or because their first career didn't work out. I've had "teachers" in front of my classrooms who don't actually have a degree in education, but somehow ended up there because they are highly sought after for their chemistry degree or whatever. Let me tell you- not just anyone can be an effective teacher. Skill in your subject area is important, but there's so much more to it than that. It's true, that some people are naturally gifted teachers. I consider myself one of them because being in front of a classroom makes me happy and I'm comfortable there. But raw talent and energy isn't enough, either. You need a full understanding of the profession to be an effective teacher. See #2. 

5. "Teaching isn't worth it." 
This is possibly the most convincing argument that people generally make against my career choice. They point out that teachers get paid a really sucky salary, that they spend a lot of time off-the-clock working on things for their students or their classrooms, that they get treated really badly by students, parents, and administrations, and that state legislatures frequently screw them over. This is all really true. Sometimes I do pause, because I know that teaching is hard. I've been in it since October with my little Friday elective class, and even that stresses me out the wazoo on a frequent basis. But it's definitely worth it. When I see my kids master a skill, that makes it worth it. When I see my kids enjoy a lesson, that makes it worth it. When I engage with them about some of the biggest issues facing our world and feel astounded by their intelligent and creative solutions, that makes it worth it. Ultimately, it's all about the students. I always say that you don't sign up to be a teacher for the fun, the awesome salary and benefits. You sign up because you're ready to go to war and fight battles in the classroom that no one else is willing to take on. I'm battling for my students, current and future, on a daily basis, for their confidence and self-image, for their education, for their futures, for their kindness and compassion, for their innovation, and for everything in between. Any measure of success makes it worth it. I teach because I want to be a world-shaker, and I want my students to be world-shakers. Call me idealistic (that would be #6 if I had time to extend this post), but I truly believe these things. I love what I do, and I do what I love, and that's good enough for me. In fact, it's perfect. 

Saturday, January 25, 2014

The Secret to Amazing Pimento Cheese

“The food in the South is as important as food anywhere because it defines a person's culture.” 
-Fannie Flagg

Let me tell you about my love affair with pimento cheese.

Pimento cheese was something that I thought was really nasty until high school and packed lunches opened my eyes forever to this wonderful, Southern concoction. I am always amazed when people say they have never had pimento cheese. You don't know what you're missing.

Luckily, my wonderful boyfriend, Don, shares my love of pimento cheese. Our passion for the stuff is probably unrivaled by most other couples. So hoping for an easy dinner tonight, I suggested pimento cheese sandwiches.

Now, my mom and granny's basic recipe is simple:

1 small jar pimentos
1 lb. sharp cheddar cheese
Some mayonnaise
Paprika to taste

This is the easiest recipe possible, but people are always putting their own variants to it. I like the simple version, but tonight our local Kroger in Macon did not have a single jar of plain pimentos. This is a problem that I oddly run into frequently down here that I never experienced back in Tennessee. Maybe Tennesseans just love their pimentos more.

I got a jar of sliced olives with pimentos, but I correctly predicted that even after separating the pimento out, it would not be enough, so I also grabbed a jar of roasted red peppers to slice up and throw in. Since the two of us are vegetarians, and thus understandably COMPLETELY OBSESSED with cheese, we picked up two varieties from the bagged cheese section and then headed over to the specialty cheeses to pick up something special. We grabbed some smoked provolone, and boy, am I glad we did.

The final recipe looks like this:

1 small block smoked provolone cheese
1 bag sharp cheddar cheese
1 bag colby jack cheese
Half a jar of roasted red peppers
Small jar of pimentos (you can separate them from olives if you can't find a jar)
Cholula hot sauce to taste
1 1/2 cups mayonnaise
Paprika
Salt and pepper

Combine your two shredded varieties of cheese in a large bowl, and then grate in the smoked provolone.
Pour in a dash of the juice from the pimentos, and drain the rest. Add pimentos to the cheese bowl.
Pour in a dash of the juice from the red peppers, and drain the rest. Finely chop about half of your red peppers from the jar and add.
Put in as much hot sauce as you like. The mayo will cut the spiciness a little, so keep that in mind.
Add about a cup and a half of mayo, and stir it all together. Add more mayo if it is not sticking together.
Add paprika, salt, and pepper to taste. Mix again so that all of the ingredients are spread evenly. You don't want to mash your cheese into too fine a consistency.

Enjoy with white or wheat bread, on toast, or on crackers! Also great melted over a delicious veggie burger.

It will keep in the fridge for several days, and will tend to taste better on day two when everything has been marinating together. :)

Enjoy!

Monday, January 13, 2014

College Rant #1: Bureacracy and Bear Cards


“Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.” 

― George Bernard Shaw

#StoryOfMyDay 

The bane of my existence. No, that's not me in the picture. 

Mondays are actually supposed to be really good for me. I have purposefully scheduled myself to only work four days a week at the law school, and Monday is my day off. I also happen to only have one class on Monday, which is at 11, which means I get to actually sort of sleep in. Sleeping in is seriously one of life's greatest pleasures. 

So today, since I got out of class at 12:15 and had nothing much to do, I decided to do my laptop shopping with part of my hefty refund check. It's totally an academic expense! I'm not even being facetious (this time)- my laptop is almost four years old, literally has parts fall off of it frequently, and now has to stay plugged in at all times because the battery is so dead. If I jostle it just enough to make it come unplugged, it immediately shuts off, taking whatever paper I was working on at the moment into the abyss. 

The stupid thing about Mercer is that it takes like at least two weeks for them to process refund checks after the semester starts. I know that in fall of 2012, I did not get my refund until November, which was crazy. Gotta eat! And you know, buy toilet paper and shit (#lol). So even though it takes that long to process the checks, somehow they can magically transfer as much or as little of my refund as I want onto my student ID/debit card (Bear Card) within a few hours. We can spend the Bear Card at certain locations only, but one of those locations is our local CVS, so I had this brilliant idea to transfer like a lot of money onto my Bear Card, and then use my Bear Card at CVS to put like $500 on an American Express giftcard, and go down to Best Buy for my laptop. Simple, right? Wrong. 

I can literally purchase anything in the store, including booze, except for a giftcard. What the hell Mercer? So now I have like $700 sitting on my Bear Card that I can spend on campus, at CVS, or at one of seven restaurants that accept it. 

And no laptop. 

I would try to fight with the Bursar's Office or Auxiliary Services-after all, it doesn't say anywhere in all their little brochures that this is a thing. But I learned in my first semester here how pointless that would be. I won't say that they're all the most useless people ever...that would just be rude...

Oh, and they won't let you withdraw money off the card. You can get it refunded when you graduate. 

#FML



Saturday, January 11, 2014

Hello, world!


“Isn't it weird how we make big decisions in life based on the strangest, most random things?” 

― Mhairi McFarlaneYou Had Me At Hello


Even though when I think of blogs, I mostly think of stay-at-home moms posting pictures of their kiddos, I think I have a lot of smart things to say about life, so I'll give it a whirl. 

My name is Lindsey, I'm a junior at Mercer University, and as you can see, my dream is to be a high school English teacher. Making that decision was a long time coming because I initially came into college as pre-law. Now I'm an English major with minors in History and Teacher Education and I'm planning to go on and get my masters in conjunction with my teaching certification. 

Even though my university is in Georgia, I'm a Tennessee girl originally and my home has a lot to do with the way I am. My family has lived in the same county, just south of Nashville, for ten generations, so I'm related to everyone. Understandably, after graduating high school in 2011, it was time to get out! I really don't know if I plan to return home permanently after I finish school, but I would definitely like to experience some other places first. 

Coming from small-town Tennessee to Macon, Georgia was a big transition. Macon is significantly bigger than my hometown and according to some, one of the more dangerous places you can live. Luckily, I have rarely felt threatened here and the university is great. It has been really weird leaving all my family behind, though. I didn't even realize how close I was to them until I moved away. 

I am basically totally responsible for my living expenses, although there definitely have been some occasions where I've called Mom & Dad to ask to borrow money. :D My tuition and meal plan at school are covered entirely with scholarships, and I accept some government student loans to help pay for my off-campus rent and utilities. It hurts to think about putting myself into debt at such a young age, so I also work two jobs to offset those expenses. I work in marketing in a student position at Mercer Law, which basically consists of me doing this all day, only fancier. 

My second job is actually my dream job- I'm a high school debate coach! I started debating as a freshmen in high school and now I'm in my third year of debate for Mercer. The activity really changed my life in a lot of positive ways, and I can't imagine ever leaving it. Since graduating high school, I have been looking for a place to assistant coach or volunteer coach, and this opportunity just fell into my lap last semester. One of the students at the school was interested in starting a team, so her mother contacted my college coach to ask if any of us Mercer debaters would be interested. I teach a seventh period nonacademic class on Fridays on debate and we traveled to two tournaments last semester. A lot of this blog will probably be me bragging about "my kids." They are all extra-talented individuals and our team has brought home four separate titles already. 

Aside from all that good stuff, I am a cat-lover, a vegetarian, a Christian, a longterm girlfriend (hopefully soon-to-be fiancee), a reading and quotes enthusiast, a wannabe DIY person, and a leader in some random campus organizations. My life is extremely busy, but it's a crazy ride! 

The things that I would like to change about myself:
--language: I curse like a sailor 
--weight: I have been struggling to get to a goal weight for a good two years now, but it fluctuates. At this point in time, I am in a place where I don't feel good about my weight, although if you had asked me last summer, I would have said I felt great!
--temper tantrums: Ask anyone. I have a hideous temper inherited from both sides of my family. 
--think before you speak: I literally have no filter. I cannot keep my mouth shut for any reason whatsoever. 

Please leave a comment and introduce yourself! Thanks for reading!